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Balanced Friendships

Do you long for more balanced friendships?

Friendships work best when there’s an equal share of giving and receiving. The angels want you to spend time with your good friends and to enjoy balanced friendships. You attract others who have a similar energy to yours. When your energy or vibration is high, you naturally and effortlessly attract others who also have a high vibration. That is how the law of attraction works.

Gerbera message - Balanced Friendships

When you live from a place of high vibration, you raise the vibration of those around you. Your higher vibration infuses into their energy field and lifts their vibration. If they’re not prepared to accept this, they will move out of your life. Some friendships are not meant to last the distance. Others will want to be around you all the time and bath in your energy. This is fine as long as you don’t feel depleted afterwards.

Be aware of those energy vampires in your life who suck you dry, leaving you tired and exhausted after you spend time with them. It’s good to share your energy, your love with others, just be careful to not withdraw too much from your energy bank that you have nothing left for yourself. You need to practice self-care and self-love. You need to maintain a high vibration through doing things that fill you up – liking walking in nature or spending time with people and things you love.

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We’re spiritually connected to everyone. We can use this sacred bond to heal our family, friends and ourselves. This message of unity comes from the angels via the flower, hibiscus. If you find yourself in a long-standing conflict with a family member or friend, you can ask your guardian angels to work with the other person’s guardian angels to help you resolve the tension. Those closest to us are our greatest teachers. They know how to push our buttons. Over and over.

When someone triggers us through something they say, as family members often do, accept this as an invitation to look inside ourselves for a crumb of truth in what they’re saying. We are often triggered by words or behaviour that exposes something inside us that we are unwilling to see. But it’s showing up as an invitation to unveil that which is hidden because it is time to us to face it, to accept it as part of us but not all of us. It’s not wrong, it just is. If we are judging their behaviour as wrong, disrespectful or hurtful, we can look for ways or times when we have acted in a similar manner. We may never do or say hurtful things to others, but have we done harmful things to ourselves? Are we treating ourselves with respect? With loving kindness? If our internal dialogue is abusive and disrespectful, the same lack of love and respect is mirrored back to us in our external environment. We attract abuse and disrespect from those around us.

When we accept that they are doing the best they know how, just as we are doing the best we know how, we gain peace. We have a sacred bond with our loved ones. We are all connected spiritually, so when we judge others, we judge ourselves. When we can forgive others, we are able to forgive ourselves. When we love ourselves, we have a greater capacity to love others.

Gerbera: Balanced FriendshipsBalanced friendships require sharing of giving and receiving. The angels ask us to look at our current relationships and consider whether they are nurturing and fulfilling, or draining and tiring. We need to be honest with ourselves. True friends are those we can call upon at any moment for support. They’d drop everything and come to our aid, and we’d do the same for them. As sensitive beings, we have a desire to help others. However, people can take advantage of our generous nature by asking for too much. This can leave us conflicted or resentful about our relationship, or drained and depleted. There needs to be an equal share of give and take. An unhealthy and unbalanced relationship will only bring us exhaustion. The angels want us to let go of any unbalanced relationships and move into new, mutually giving and respectful relationships. They want us to have balanced friendships.

Because we are all connected in spiritual truth, we are never alone; our energy is naturally intertwined with others. As one person’s energy grows and heals, everyone else is positively influenced. So by focussing healing upon yourself, by focussing on healing relationships with others, we can heal those around us. When we send healing prayers to others, we’re also sending loving wishes to ourselves.

Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian healing prayer, thought to have originated as a way to correct the wrongs in someone’s life. Ho’oponopono means to make right. Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors, or to make it right with the people with whom you have relationships. It’s not about saying what the other person did was wrong or right. It has nothing to do with others. It’s about making it right for you by cleaning up what is in you that is causing you to be triggered by others. It’s about forgiving and loving that part of you that you may not have been willing to acknowledge was even there.

We can use the Ho’oponopono process whenever we are faced with an adverse situation, when we’re triggered by others or when we find ourselves in an undesirable place in our lives. Firstly, we ask ourselves questions like: What is it in me that is causing this event to take place? What is it in me that causing this person to behave this way? What is it in me that is causing this sickness to manifest? What is it in me that is preventing my dreams being fulfilled? This is not about blame of any kind. Blaming others just ensures the problem remains or recurs. Blaming yourself is not helpful either. It is however, about you accepting full responsibility for the other person’s actions. Accepting responsibility is not about blame. Blame implies you or another person did something wrong. Accepting responsibility allows you to do something about the situation. It is empowering.

How I Use Ho’oponopono

The Ho’oponopono prayer is a forgiveness prayer and involves repeating the following statements over and over as a mantra. “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” This is the sequence I like to use, others may use them in a different order.

You can practice using the Ho’oponopono process everyday. An example of how you can use it, could include the following scenario. You have lunch with a friend and you feel hurt about a comment she made or something she did or didn’t do. You get home and you stew on it, you complain to your partner and you get angry with the kids for not doing what you asked. Instead of feeling upset or angry about the situation or trying to get your friend to apologise or change in any way, you turn your attention inside and ask yourself “What is it inside me that is causing my friend to be so nasty?” Then you say the mantra over and over. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. You might be surprised how quickly the situation changes. She might ring and apologise or you clear up a misunderstanding. Or not. You might just not be triggered by her. Keep in mind this mantra is about forgiving and loving the part inside you that is causing others to act in a way that is upsetting you, it is not about wanting or trying to force others to change.

You can use this same process if you witness a stranger yelling at someone. You don’t need to know the people involved, or be personally involved yourself. Ask yourself “What is it in me that is causing this person to be so angry?” Focus on yourself and chant the mantra. This shifts your vibration which in turn, snowballs out to others because we’re all connected, and changes the vibration of others and the situation. Don’t expect the situation to change, just notice what shows up. Observe what’s different about you and about the situation.

Another example of how to use the mantra is if you are experiencing pain in your body. Hold your attention on the area of your body where you are feeling the pain and repeat the mantra. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. If you like, you can add extra words that feel right for you e.g. “I’m sorry beautiful body. I’m so so sorry. I’m sorry for what happened to you. Please, please forgive me for neglecting you. Please forgive me for judging you and treating you unkindly. I love you. I love you so so much. I will take care of you. Thank you for protecting me. Thank you for doing the best you could.” This is an adaptation to the prayer. It has the same underlying message. Feel free to play around with it. I find when I’m focussing on my body and saying the mantra, I receive messages or guidance about how I can help my body, and miraculously, the pain often eases or shifts completely.

When we have pain or there is something about our body we don’t like, it can be difficult to detach from the outcome we want and just focus on loving and accepting that part of us. This process is not about forcing anything to happen. The more we push and want something to change, the more we lock it into place. We need to practice, without expectation of change. Aim for progress, not perfection.

Shower of Abundance Daily Guidance card

To heal your financial situation, first give us your worries concerning money. We will guide you in order to show you how to create and accept abundance. As we work together, your financial situation will heal as fast as you’ll allow.

Although many of us associate abundance only with our finances or material possessions, abundance simply means a copious supply or plenty. Abundance is available in many non-physical forms such as having plenty of time to do the things we want, opportunities, love, health, friendship or ideas.

What blocks us from having a copious supply of anything is often our fear. Fear of not having enough or fear of losing what we have. Our fears can cripple us from achieving that which we truly desire. When we vibrate fear, lack and scarcity we are ordering more of the same from the Universe. To turn this around, we need to change our vibration to that of love and gratitude. Feeling truly blessed for everything we have in our lives, the non-physical as well as the material possessions changes our vibration. Our feelings create our vibration and this is the language of the Universe. Through our vibration, we attract things which have a similar frequency, things such as people, experiences and even money.

Have you ever noticed when you’re in a bad mood or you are angry or upset about something, you seem to attract more of the same? When you are vibrating negativity, you’ll find many things throughout your day to feel angry, upset or negative about. If you continue to emit this vibration and engage in gossiping and complaining all the time, you’ll find more and more things to complain about, including all those people who are ‘lucky’ because everything always goes their way. These people aren’t lucky, they are merely vibrating a higher frequency. To help raise your frequency, start by adopting an attitude of gratitude and a daily practice of finding things in your life you love and feel blessed to have. Things such as your ability to get out of bed in the morning, being able to hug your loved ones, your comfortable lounge chair, the quiet street where you live, the beauty you find in nature, the smell of a rose or freshly cut grass. The list is endless. I challenge you to add five new things that you are truly grateful for, each day to add to your list. Pretty soon, you will have raised your vibration and will be attracting more of the things you truly love.

This is how you can attract abundance into your life. An abundance of love, time, opportunities or finances. Allow yourself to receive a shower of abundance. Raise your vibration, ask your angels for help and act on those surprising or unexpected answers you get without rationalising them. When we ask our angels for help, we need to be open to receiving and accepting their assistance. This often comes in the form of a thought or opportunity that is unexpected or may seem unrelated to our request, and we either dismiss it or explain it away. It is those thoughts that pop into our head when we least expect them that can be the answer to our prayers.

I get messages from songs I find myself singing in my head, songs I haven’t heard recently. When this happens, I take notice of the words. This past week I lost a dear friend and colleague, Joy who was also my spiritual healer and mentor. Since her passing, and even before I knew she had passed, I had this song in my head. You know those songs that keep playing over and over in your head and you find yourself singing it without conscious awareness. Well the song I was singing was Joy to the World, or as it is commonly known, Jeremiah was a Bullfrog, made famous by Three Dog Night first released in 1970, with the lyrics: ‘Joy to the world. All the boys and girls. Joy to the fishes in the deep blue sea. Joy to you and me.’

Remembering my beautiful friend, Joy who is now at peace, you certainly brought a lot of joy to the world.

This Shower of Abundance message is from the Daily Guidance from your Angels oracle cards by Doreen Virtue.

Authenticity ~ Living Your Truth

Authenticity, noun ~ undisputed credibility, genuineness, legitimacy, believability, credibility – the quality of being believable or trustworthy. 

earth glow2013 is a year of Authenticity. Since the beginning of the Aquarian Age following the 21 December 2012 solstice, the Earth has been flooded with more light. This light illuminates everything on Earth and will reach even the darkest of places. Where there is light, there can be no darkness, because the darkness is transformed.  

That which is of a lower vibrating energy will be illuminated this year for all to see. That which has been hidden will be exposed. No one is immune to the light. There is nowhere to hide. Scandals will be exposed, involving governments, corporations, businesses, celebrities and possibly even friends and acquaintances. OK, I hear you saying, scandals involving celebrities are nothing new!   

Are you living your truth? Now is the time for you to consider bringing more light into your life and illuminate any fear, guilt and shame you may have, and move into a more authentic life. 

How can we bring light into our life? We simply do this through our intention. What does this mean? If we think of light as love, we can consciously choose to breath in love and bring this into our body. We can align with the vibration of love by feeling love in our hearts. 

Think of someone or a pet you love unconditionally or remember a time in your life when you felt loved by another and bring the feeling of this love into your body. Practice this feeling as often as you can with the aim of living there all the time, and your life will change.  

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When you are in the vibration of love, you can shift many things in your life, such as your health, your relationships and even your finances. When you are living at this vibration of love, you also raise the vibration of others around you. Life becomes more enjoyable and fulfilling. 

As fear can not co-exist in the presence of light and love, we can shine the light on our fears and see them dissolve. Keeping our fears hidden can be draining on our energy and on our health. We spend more energy trying to hide our fears than we can afford.  

Fears are a projection of something in the future; something that may or may not happen. They are based in the past – past thoughts, beliefs and experiences. So to dissolve our fears, we need to be in the present moment.  

A simple exercise to facilitate this is to name your fears out loud, then immediately bring your attention to the present. You can do this by simply noticing something in front of you such as the coffee cup on your desk, the scene from your window, the picture on the wall – whatever may be right in front of you.  

Bringing your full attention to a part of your body such as your hands, your feet, or your breath is also a good way to be present. You can stroke our hand and really notice how that feels – notice the sensation of touch, warmth, pressure etc. Alternatively you can put your attention on the space between your feet and the floor and notice how that feels. Another technique is to just notice your breath, without trying to control it. Is there a temperature difference between your inhalation and your exhalation? 

These are all techniques to help you be present in the moment. When you are present in the moment, or being mindful, you can not feel fear, just like light and dark can not co-exist. 

scared little boy oldWhen you feel fear creeping back into your mind, allow it to be there, acknowledge it and thank it for showing up for you. Don’t try to push it away or judge yourself for having this feeling, just allow it to be there and accept it as a natural human emotion. 

It will be showing up for a reason. It may have a message for you or it may simply want to be acknowledged so that it can leave your body. 

If at any time, you feel yourself overcome with fear, or even just feel slightly stressed during your day, bring your attention to the present moment and shift your energy into a more peaceful restful state. Your body will thank you for this. It only takes a moment, needs no special equipment and can be practiced anytime and anywhere. 

Releasing your fears and any hidden emotions of shame, guilt or lack (which are all extensions of fear) will help you move into a more authentic you. What have you got to lose? Now is the time for you to start living your truth as the Universe is supporting you.