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Balanced Friendships

Do you long for more balanced friendships?

Friendships work best when there’s an equal share of giving and receiving. The angels want you to spend time with your good friends and to enjoy balanced friendships. You attract others who have a similar energy to yours. When your energy or vibration is high, you naturally and effortlessly attract others who also have a high vibration. That is how the law of attraction works.

Gerbera message - Balanced Friendships

When you live from a place of high vibration, you raise the vibration of those around you. Your higher vibration infuses into their energy field and lifts their vibration. If they’re not prepared to accept this, they will move out of your life. Some friendships are not meant to last the distance. Others will want to be around you all the time and bath in your energy. This is fine as long as you don’t feel depleted afterwards.

Be aware of those energy vampires in your life who suck you dry, leaving you tired and exhausted after you spend time with them. It’s good to share your energy, your love with others, just be careful to not withdraw too much from your energy bank that you have nothing left for yourself. You need to practice self-care and self-love. You need to maintain a high vibration through doing things that fill you up – liking walking in nature or spending time with people and things you love.


We’re spiritually connected to everyone. We can use this sacred bond to heal our family, friends and ourselves. This message of unity comes from the angels via the flower, hibiscus. If you find yourself in a long-standing conflict with a family member or friend, you can ask your guardian angels to work with the other person’s guardian angels to help you resolve the tension. Those closest to us are our greatest teachers. They know how to push our buttons. Over and over.

When someone triggers us through something they say, as family members often do, accept this as an invitation to look inside ourselves for a crumb of truth in what they’re saying. We are often triggered by words or behaviour that exposes something inside us that we are unwilling to see. But it’s showing up as an invitation to unveil that which is hidden because it is time to us to face it, to accept it as part of us but not all of us. It’s not wrong, it just is. If we are judging their behaviour as wrong, disrespectful or hurtful, we can look for ways or times when we have acted in a similar manner. We may never do or say hurtful things to others, but have we done harmful things to ourselves? Are we treating ourselves with respect? With loving kindness? If our internal dialogue is abusive and disrespectful, the same lack of love and respect is mirrored back to us in our external environment. We attract abuse and disrespect from those around us.

When we accept that they are doing the best they know how, just as we are doing the best we know how, we gain peace. We have a sacred bond with our loved ones. We are all connected spiritually, so when we judge others, we judge ourselves. When we can forgive others, we are able to forgive ourselves. When we love ourselves, we have a greater capacity to love others.

Gerbera: Balanced FriendshipsBalanced friendships require sharing of giving and receiving. The angels ask us to look at our current relationships and consider whether they are nurturing and fulfilling, or draining and tiring. We need to be honest with ourselves. True friends are those we can call upon at any moment for support. They’d drop everything and come to our aid, and we’d do the same for them. As sensitive beings, we have a desire to help others. However, people can take advantage of our generous nature by asking for too much. This can leave us conflicted or resentful about our relationship, or drained and depleted. There needs to be an equal share of give and take. An unhealthy and unbalanced relationship will only bring us exhaustion. The angels want us to let go of any unbalanced relationships and move into new, mutually giving and respectful relationships. They want us to have balanced friendships.

Because we are all connected in spiritual truth, we are never alone; our energy is naturally intertwined with others. As one person’s energy grows and heals, everyone else is positively influenced. So by focussing healing upon yourself, by focussing on healing relationships with others, we can heal those around us. When we send healing prayers to others, we’re also sending loving wishes to ourselves.

Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian healing prayer, thought to have originated as a way to correct the wrongs in someone’s life. Ho’oponopono means to make right. Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors, or to make it right with the people with whom you have relationships. It’s not about saying what the other person did was wrong or right. It has nothing to do with others. It’s about making it right for you by cleaning up what is in you that is causing you to be triggered by others. It’s about forgiving and loving that part of you that you may not have been willing to acknowledge was even there.

We can use the Ho’oponopono process whenever we are faced with an adverse situation, when we’re triggered by others or when we find ourselves in an undesirable place in our lives. Firstly, we ask ourselves questions like: What is it in me that is causing this event to take place? What is it in me that causing this person to behave this way? What is it in me that is causing this sickness to manifest? What is it in me that is preventing my dreams being fulfilled? This is not about blame of any kind. Blaming others just ensures the problem remains or recurs. Blaming yourself is not helpful either. It is however, about you accepting full responsibility for the other person’s actions. Accepting responsibility is not about blame. Blame implies you or another person did something wrong. Accepting responsibility allows you to do something about the situation. It is empowering.

How I Use Ho’oponopono

The Ho’oponopono prayer is a forgiveness prayer and involves repeating the following statements over and over as a mantra. “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” This is the sequence I like to use, others may use them in a different order.

You can practice using the Ho’oponopono process everyday. An example of how you can use it, could include the following scenario. You have lunch with a friend and you feel hurt about a comment she made or something she did or didn’t do. You get home and you stew on it, you complain to your partner and you get angry with the kids for not doing what you asked. Instead of feeling upset or angry about the situation or trying to get your friend to apologise or change in any way, you turn your attention inside and ask yourself “What is it inside me that is causing my friend to be so nasty?” Then you say the mantra over and over. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. You might be surprised how quickly the situation changes. She might ring and apologise or you clear up a misunderstanding. Or not. You might just not be triggered by her. Keep in mind this mantra is about forgiving and loving the part inside you that is causing others to act in a way that is upsetting you, it is not about wanting or trying to force others to change.

You can use this same process if you witness a stranger yelling at someone. You don’t need to know the people involved, or be personally involved yourself. Ask yourself “What is it in me that is causing this person to be so angry?” Focus on yourself and chant the mantra. This shifts your vibration which in turn, snowballs out to others because we’re all connected, and changes the vibration of others and the situation. Don’t expect the situation to change, just notice what shows up. Observe what’s different about you and about the situation.

Another example of how to use the mantra is if you are experiencing pain in your body. Hold your attention on the area of your body where you are feeling the pain and repeat the mantra. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. If you like, you can add extra words that feel right for you e.g. “I’m sorry beautiful body. I’m so so sorry. I’m sorry for what happened to you. Please, please forgive me for neglecting you. Please forgive me for judging you and treating you unkindly. I love you. I love you so so much. I will take care of you. Thank you for protecting me. Thank you for doing the best you could.” This is an adaptation to the prayer. It has the same underlying message. Feel free to play around with it. I find when I’m focussing on my body and saying the mantra, I receive messages or guidance about how I can help my body, and miraculously, the pain often eases or shifts completely.

When we have pain or there is something about our body we don’t like, it can be difficult to detach from the outcome we want and just focus on loving and accepting that part of us. This process is not about forcing anything to happen. The more we push and want something to change, the more we lock it into place. We need to practice, without expectation of change. Aim for progress, not perfection.

Flower Therapy

Flower Therapy

Could you do with some flower therapy today? Bougainvillea AA 091

Are you struggling with something in your life right now?

Don’t know which choice to make? 

Is there something in your life that you want clarity on?

Then this Flower Therapy reading is for you. There is no mistake that you are reading this message today, whenever today is, as the date it was written is not important. It is encoded with the energy of the answer, so whenever you are reading this, is the right time for you.

The messages are always relevant. If they at first don’t seem to answer your question, please revisit your question from a different angle and look within to find what is underneath your question. What is the true meaning of your question? As an example, you may ask ‘should I leave my current job?’ But what is underneath the asking of this question may be your dissatisfaction with your love relationship which you know has come to an end but you are afraid to walk away. The cards won’t give you a yes or no answer about leaving your job. You already know the answer to that question, you are just afraid or unwilling to accept what you intuitively know. The cards will give you a more meaningful message that addresses your real question. It’s up to you to decide whether you are willing or ready to listen to the guidance. 

Today’s reading is from the Flower Therapy Oracle cards by Doreen Virtue and Robert Reeves. I love these cards as they combine two of my favourite things – angels and flowers. As the authors of these oracle cards say, flowers are Mother Nature’s way of providing us with beautiful displays of unconditional love. I couldn’t agree more.

First think of your question. Get as clear as you can about this – what are you seeking clarity on in your life?

I am using the three card spread to provide deeper answers to your question.

The first message representing the immediate past in regards to your (real) question is from Bougainvillea, and is SHIELD YOURSELF. Invoke protection to bring this situation to a speedy end.

Bouganvillea AA 094Many of us may be surrounded by negative emotional energy from others. You know those people who complain all the time, gossip about others, get caught up in the dramas of life or are always seeing the worst in every situation. We all have some of these people in our lives, maybe they are friends, family members or work colleagues.

Although we can’t force others to change, we can prevent their energy and emotions from affecting us. By displaying a loving outlook, we can inspire others to do the same. By looking past the drama of the situation or person, we can maintain a sense of peace and calm. If you find yourself caught up in someone else’s drama or you are experiencing your own life challenges, take a moment and say to yourself ‘I know that you are love.’ Repeat this at least three times, and as often as you like, and you will feel the energy around the situation shift, bringing you back into balance and a more loving and peaceful space.

You can shield yourself by imagining a bright light all around you, cocooning you and protecting you from negative energy or emotions. This light can be any colour that comes to mind, pink for love, blue or green for soothing and calming, or white for protection. The colour doesn’t matter, use whatever feels right for you. If you don’t know what colour is best for you, just guess what you think it may be, or use white light. Imagine that only loving energy can penetrate this shield from both directions and any negative or lower vibrating energy that you may have absorbed in your body can be released but this is a one way street – lower vibrating energy or emotions can not move in, only out. Your angels and nature spirits are standing beside you to ensure your shield is intact. Feel the protective energy of bougainvillea wrap around you, keeping you safe. Remember to imagine this shield around you every day. You can do this visualisation before you get out of bed each morning, or after your morning shower.

The second message representing your question’s current status and what you need to know to work on right now is from Eucalyptus, and is OPEN YOUR ARMS TO RECEIVING. You’ve prayed for help; now be open to accepting it.

There are no special rewards for completing a task on your own. ‘It’s okay. I can do it.’ How often do these words come out of your mouth? Many of us have trouble accepting help from others. We resist offers of help for a variety of reasons – we think we should do it all on our own, or we don’t want to ‘bother’ others with our burdens. Consider how you feel when you help others in a way that may seem minor to you but makes a big difference to the other person. When our help is received and appreciated by others,  our mood is elevated. It feels good to give. By resisting assistance from others, we are denying others the opportunity for them to feel good about making a difference to our day.

It’s the same in the Spirit world. Asking our angels for guided assistance is only one part of manifesting a miracle. The second part involves our being able to accept the blessings that the angels bring. We need to let our angels know that we are open to receiving all the blessings they have for us. We do this by allowing them to help us and graciously receiving all that they offer. We can send a prayer to our angels ‘Thank you for your constant and unconditional support. I am willing to receive all of the love, guidance and healing that you have for me. Please shower me with your gifts and blessings as I am now ready to receive my miracles.’

Our angels are waiting for us to ask for their assistance. They don’t intervene unless we ask, so remember to ask for what you want. You’re in the process of attracting amazing opportunities.

The third and final message represents your immediate future if you continue on your present path and follow the guidance of the last card. You can always improve your future by holding a positive outlook and following your own inner guidance. This last message from Hibiscus is UNITY. You’re spiritually connected to everyone through God /Universe / Spirit / Source (substitute whatever name you resonate most with). Use this sacred bond to heal your family, friends and yourself.

In spiritual truth, you are never alone. In every moment you have a divine connection to Spirit and to every living thing. Your energy is entwined with that of all others. So as you elevate your energy and heal, everyone else is positively influenced. The greatest gift you can give to others is to raise your own vibration or energy – to heal yourself first. When you heal yourself, you heal those around you. Likewise, when you give healing prayers to others, you’re sending loving healing wishes to yourself as well.

Look at the bigger picture of this situation without feeling selfish for taking time for you. You have the ability to change your surroundings. Others may bring greater power to your work.

This card may also mean that your current situation involves more than just yourself. Look at the people with whom you are connected, tune into their energy and notice if they’re playing a direct part in your present situation. You can heal this situation by focussing either on them or on yourself – either way will render the same results.

Enjoy the happiness and peace that comes from working with this divine principle of unity, and know that you are never alone.

 All photos by Kaye Hazel


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