Monthly Archives: May 2014

Do you LOVE yourself?

Do you know how to love yourself unconditionally?

What if the key to financial abundance, great health and happiness was to truly love yourself?

Are you blocking yourself from receiving all that you are meant to be in this world?

Are you limiting yourself in some way but don’t know how – or how to shift this?

Are you ready to stop playing small and to love yourself unconditionally?

 

Rikka - love activates image

 

Do you ever wish you could BE happier, FEEL happier and LIVE happier?

If so, I have great news for you!

My friend and colleague, Rikka Zimmerman, self-love expert, has just let us in on a powerful secret: Self-love is the real key to happiness, fulfilment, abundance and success in every area of your life.

Rikka’s 30-Sec Self-Love Quiz <<< Do You Love YOU? Take It Now To Find Out!

Knowing where you are now in the self-love journey is the crucial first step toward creating the life of your dreams. If you haven’t achieved a depth of self-love in yourself yet, then you may be holding yourself back from achieving so much more – like a healthy, vibrant body; like solid, loving relationships with your soul mate, your friends, and your family members; as well as financial and business success!

Most people experience at least 1 of 3 main blocks to self-love, and when you take this quiz, you’ll discover which of them has been in the way of you reaching the joyful, loving dream life that is yours for the having!

 

Rikka - unconditional love

 

I’ve been following Rikka for a few years now and I highly recommend her – I’m sure you’ll love her as much as I do. Be prepared to experience a profound shift in your being, through the soul-touching wisdom that is embedded in her playful vibrancy. Supporting people just like you, to overcome blocks and achieve higher levels of self-love is her absolute passion.

 

Rikka Zimmerman

 

When you take this quiz, you’ll receive customized results that you can use right away in your life to begin transforming your entire existence into what you TRULY want it to be.

Here’s the link again where you can complete “The 30-Second Self-Love Quiz: Reveal Your #1 Block to Receiving”

Do You Love YOU? << Find Out!

To loving yourself

Kaye

P.S. This quiz is *free* and it only takes 30 seconds! Just by taking it you will receive an amazing video series from Rikka that is designed to take your life from ordinary to extraordinary! Take the quiz and be ready to receive a whole new vibration of self-love!

P.P.S. Feel free to forward this information on to your friends and family members! Just be sure to take the quiz yourself, here

 

When do children grieve?

When is the time right for a child to grieve the death of a parent?

 

At the time of the loss, even very young children can be aware of the separation that has occurred due to their parent’s passing. They may recognise their parent is not there when they used to be and they may also sense the emotional pain of others around them during this distressing time. Depending on the age and emotional maturity of the child, they may not understand the permanency of their loss until much later, possibly years later.

Most children will feel varying degrees of sadness at the time of the loss, and this is often shrouded in confusion about the meaning of death, and trying to understand their emotions and possibly the behaviour of others. This may be the first time that they witness their remaining parent or other caregiver crying. They may not understand explanations provided, if there are any explanations given.

While children express feelings of grief following their loss, they can not fully comprehend the effect this loss will have on them, much of this is not realised until years later, if at all. Many people will not be aware that such a wound inflicted during childhood, can impact every aspect of their lives for the rest of their lives.

The loss of a parent when a child is 2 or 3 years old may result in a fear of separation or abandonment which can translate into relationship problems for that adult child with them being clingy or needy in relationships or having an aversion to developing attachments to others.   

The loss of a parent when a child is around 8 or 9 years old, can result in the child idolising that parent and believing they could never live up to the expectation of being a parent themselves.

My own childhood losses unconsciously resulted in such life experiences for me. Following my Dad’s death when I was two, I became a clingy child not wanting to let my Mum out of my sight. Over the years, I have experienced times of severe stress and inconsolable tears at times when I was separated from those I love, such as during hospital stays as a child, when my sister left home to get married and when I was about to leave for university. Even now, I can become teary when my husband is leaving for a weekend or week away from me.

My fear of separation was likely amplified when my Mum died when I was nine. Through my nine year old eyes, I saw my Mum as the perfect Mum; someone who could do or fix everything and who was always there for me… until she wasn’t. I put her on a pedestal, idolising the perfect picture of motherhood; a picture I knew I could never live up. Coupled with what I believed was a strong likelihood that I too would die at an early age, I could not consider having children of my own in case they were left motherless at an early age.

Scanned family 1960 best

 

The loss of my parents obviously had a huge impact on my life, the extent of which I have only become aware of in recent years. And it is now more than four decades later. I have also come to realise that what happened after their deaths, primarily how those close to me reacted to the deaths is probably what had the greatest influence on me. While I can’t recall much following my Dad’s passing, I have clear memories of the days following my Mum’s passing. Memories such as the ‘explanation’ we were given for her death; statements such as “God only takes the best”, “Only the good die young”, “God must have needed her in Heaven.” Following these platitudes, it took me nearly forty years to be able to say the word ‘God’ without gritting my teeth and feeling tension in my whole body.

Following my Mum’s death, she was rarely spoken about in open conversation. Things soon got back to our new normal after her passing, in fact I only had one day off school, returning to school the day of her funeral. I wasn’t allowed to attend her funeral. Instead I watched from the school grounds next door to the church and within view of the cemetery.

Although I shed bucket loads of tears for my Mum over the years, mainly in private, I never really grieved MY loss. As a child, I got on with what was expected of me. However the pain of my loss burned like an inferno inside of me, until it started to consume me thirty years after my loss. It took me another ten years to realise that I was harbouring feelings of grief that had never been expressed, despite all the tears over the years. And surprisingly, I discovered a pocket of unexpressed grief for my Dad buried in my body as well, as I wrote about this time last year in my blog, titled Unexpressed Grief.   

family silhouette

It took me over four decades, but eventually I gave myself permission to express my grief. Well, I didn’t have much say in it really, as the tears flowed like water over Victoria Falls. I recognised that I needed to acknowledge MY pain, as it was MY loss. I finally allowed myself to FEEL my pain, and to feel the sadness I held for what I missed out on as a daughter. Instead of judging, denying, ignoring and trying to suppress or push my feelings away, I welcomed and embraced them. Once I made them welcome, they were free to leave.

Following my ah ha moment of the need to express my grief no matter how long it was since my loss, I wondered whether other people knew of this what-I-consider-to-be-a revelation. I pondered whether the time is ever right for a child to fully grieve the death of their parent. When is a ‘good’ time to revisit your childhood pain? I labelled my feelings of pain and sadness as inappropriate whenever they arose, as it had been twenty or thirty years since my loss. I now know it is imperative for us to feel our feelings and to cry as many tears as we need to, for the pain of our loss, no matter how long we’ve been holding on to that pain. I learned the hard way, that it’s never too late to feel our feelings. As Karol K Truman discusses in her book of the same title “feelings buried alive, never die.”   

Do adults who were a child when their parent died, ever revisit their grief and complete the grieving process? If so, did they do this in their early adult life or much later in life? I don’t mean to imply that we ever get over our loss, as things are forever changed and we may always have feelings of sadness, but I’ve come to understand that we can reach a point of completion or full acceptance that the death was not wrong or a mistake and that it was time for our loved one to pass.  

It is recognised that children less than three years of age have little or no understanding of the meaning or significance of death. However, that doesn’t mean they don’t feel the loss or that they don’t need to grieve. This grief may go unrecognised and unexpressed for many years, waiting patiently for as long as it takes to have its expression. 

Renown grief expert, Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross wrote in her book, On Death and Dying (1969) ‘grief has a fail-safe mechanism that will hold itself intact until a child is old enough or psychologically prepared enough to deal with it.’ 

So when do children grieve? When is the time right for this expression? Is it two, five, ten or twenty years later, or like me fifty years later? Or do most people never complete their grieving process but transfer their original unexpressed grief from childhood onto their next loss?

 

Today on the anniversary of my Dad’s passing, I dedicate this post to him as well as to my Mum, and send them both my love and appreciation for the short time we got to spend together in this lifetime.

 

Your daughter, Kaylene (Kaye)

1-Mum and Dad's grave

Releasing weight is an emotional issue

Is your weight an emotional issue?

The Biological Weight Loss Trap:

Why most people struggle to lose weight and how you can use EFT Tapping today to finally lose weight faster than you ever thought possible!

When you think about how to release extra weight, what are the first things you think of?

Eating better and exercising, right?

You are probably also thinking about food restrictions, sweaty workouts and not-another-diet.

 

I know that’s what most people think of, but as EFT Tapping Expert Jessica Ortner says…

“Focusing on diet and exercise FIRST when trying to release weight, is absolutely the wrong approach. It’s not that diet and exercise don’t matter, it’s that the ability to eat well, exercise, and feel safe releasing weight are all run unconsciously in your brain, and if your brain isn’t wired the way you want it to be, then you’re just setting yourself up for failure.  If you’ve struggled and gone from diet to diet, you’re likely to continue the trend UNLESS you get to the root of the problem.”  

Jessica has been taking a much different approach towards helping women and she’s been getting some amazingly good results.

And the latest science and research is proving exactly why her approach works so well!

Jessica is sharing details about the approach she has used with over 4,000 women over the last year alone, using EFT Tapping to help them find and overcome the unconscious emotions, beliefs, traumas and more that keep women from releasing weight, in a webinar presentation that she’s running this week only.

If you’ve never heard about Tapping, she’ll explain exactly what it is, how it works and why so many people are using it today with powerful results.

I highly recommend checking this webinar out now.

Here’s some of what Jessica is sharing in these content-packed presentations:

On the science and research:

  • What goes on in the body biologically with negative emotions like stress, anxiety and overwhelm and the specifics of how they effect your we*ght (How it affects digestion, blood vessels and brain function is fascinating!)  
  • What happens in your brain that causes you to overeat when you are emotional (and how to counteract this)
  • Why people yo-yo with diets and why they actually put on more weight when going from diet to diet

 

And here is some of what she’ll cover on how to use Tapping for Weight Loss:

  • How to pinpoint your underlying unconscious blocks to releasing weight and then eliminate them with Tapping
  • How both large and small past traumatic events (some that you might not even remember) can keep you from feeling safe to lose weight.  (And she’ll show you how to release these traumas with Tapping)
  • How to use Tapping to make any nutritional or exercise program work for you!
  • And so much more…

 

You can view the webinar here

 

Jessica is extremely passionate about this subject because of her own previous struggle with her weight. She is also extremely knowledgeable on the subject. 

She’s the author of a new book being released in May called “The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss and Body Confidence” which is already getting incredible reviews from early reviewers like Cheryl Richardson, Dr Christiane Northrup, Dr Lissa Rankin, Dr Mark Hyman, Gabrielle Bernstein, Marci Shimoff and many others. 

Please be sure to look out for that book next month. 

But for now, make sure to check out this incredible webinar presentation, happening this week only:

Every woman deserves to be happy and confident in her body, including you.

I think that this presentation can help you get there.   

 

P.S. – Here are two of the hundreds of emails Jessica has received from clients she has worked with about her approach:

The results were DRAMATIC. I stopped wanting and eating sugar. I began to WANT to exercise. I lost 11 lbs. within just 2 months. After 5 more months, I’d lost another 7 lbs. The day after New Year’s, I stepped on a scale and I had lost another pound instead of gaining anything. In the year since, I have not dieted or restricted food AT ALL!”
-Rhonda Robinson

I have struggled for over 15 years with weight fluctuations and emotional issues surrounding food and body image. Through working with Jessica, I was able to discover the root cause of my eating/body issues and understand how to move forward. Not only is there a physical transformation, but also a significant emotional weight loss as well…”
-Christine Haskin

What are you waiting for?… view the webinar now